Some of the best times I can remember are with my oldest mates – having a few beers, watching rugby, re-telling all those well-worn war stories and jokes until the wee hours of the morning. Those boerewors rolls never tasted so good as at 2am.
While I never consciously decided to back off during the pregnancy and the birth, in hindsight, things really do seem to have changed.
Friends who have kids have become closer, friends without kids have faded into the background just a little bit. I think, as my priorities changed and my focus diverted, so naturally has the rest of my social life.
Work associations, although very important during the week, have held less importance during my time after hours.
My phone spends a lot of time either off or on silent these days, two things it NEVER did before.
I know that when my school buddies get into the same headspace, things will re-convene and re-align later on.
The strange thing is that it's something I loved doing back then, but not something that I miss. At least for the moment!
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